Why do I write?

I write to create connection with my readers to provide for them a safe space to find answers. . Maybe that means conveying my message in a way that people can really understand what I am saying and not feel alone in their struggles in life and as a result they may have an inner shift, ah-ha and feel more peaceful about their life.

Maybe I will say something in my writing that will help them release some longheld belief or emotion which was holding them back in their life. I’m curious if writing can help me stay in touch with my emotions so I won’t feel the need to stuff them in anyway inside myself on occasion. I have been known to use food to stuff feelings and emotions in the past. Since writing can be a way to empty my cup using words about something I am learning about myself in my growth process, it is a way to share my growth with others.
I have wanted to develope writing skills so what better way to develope a skill but to practice. I get to practice giving voice to my thoughts and experiences though writing. I have a goal to feel a level of mastery in the craft of writing, whatever that means. It would be nice to increase my vocabulary as a result of a regular writing practice and shift my belief about my ability to write or convey a message though the use of words.

It would be fun to develope storytelling skills and writing clear word pictures though practicing writing to share my ideas and growth with others. It seems that by putting an experience or some aspect of growth in words, I might be able to integrate the experience better. I certainly would not complain about that. I look forward to create my creative muscle and I understand that consistance it the key.

What do you want to be more consistant with?

The best advice I was ever given.

The best advice I was given was given to me when I started in a 12-step group for food addiction. I learned that for every interaction I had with someone who triggered a feeling such as anger, fear, jealousy, sadness, inadequacy, depression, impatience, intolerance, shame there was something inside of me I needed to look at.

I’m not saying that as I looked inside, the difficult feelings went right away. I had to learn to slow down, take baby steps to expose to myself that which I choose to look at within. I’ve  had to choose to practice courage to look within when something was being mirrored back to me by someone I have had an interaction with which did not feel that great because I might have been feeling angry as a result of the interaction.

Some situations required me to speak more truthfully, sometimes it was necessary to cultivate compassion for another rather than judge, sometimes I was being shown a mirror of something inside myself I did not like so I could have self-compassion and self-acceptance. Feeling jealousy often showed me a desire I had to achieve or attain something and I know I can start by practicing gratitude for what I have and where I am yet still knowing where I want to be while practicing the art of patience and trust through the process of working toward my goals. 

At times, I was shown where I was feeling just plain not enough. That feeling of not enough plagued me often unless I looked at it, allowed the tension caused by fear to dissipate by maybe sharing it with another and reframe that feeling into a positive statement about myself. I have learned that exposing the truth with myself can hurt but as I sink into my heart and show myself compassion it does set me free. It is in my best interest not comparing my insides to what I see in someone’s outside since I know there will always be someone greater and lesser that myself.  

Why is it important not to wait to make changes in your life?

It is important not to wait to make changes in your life. For myself, I have learned that waiting impacts the way one see’s themselves and the world, it puts off or prolongs reaping the rewards a desired change can make such as improved health and wellbeing and it can open doors to an unimagined, inspired filled life and there is no price tag for that.

The people we surround ourselves with will benefit from our improved health and well-being. Waiting to make a change is like holding the weight of the world on one’s shoulders without realizing it and wondering why the life feels heavy, depressive and difficult. This can impact how a person sees themselves and from studies I have read, a long held negative self-concepts can impact our longevity.

I spent many years in my 50’s not making the significant changes I needed to make in my life leaving me trying to wade through depression and self judgement from my unwillingness to make the changes I was called to make from a deep inner calling.

After the years of sitting in that limbo I made one of those changes by becoming a life coach.  After signing up for the life coach training course I had selected, I opened myself up to an overwhelming state of fear and internal voices of my inner critic saying what are you doing, you’ll never be any good at that, what if it is a mistake, fear of others judgements of my choice,  which I lived through and now I am reaping the rewards I speak of.

I have learned that following my calling sooner could have alleviated a lot of personal difficulty. I was full of fear and excuses and I decided to do it any way (with lots of support from people in my life). The benefits of increased confidence, health, wellbeing, improved relationships, etc. have been worth the price of admission,

# 1- What holds people back in their lives when it pertains to personal growth?

What holds people back in their lives when it comes to personal growth……. they often think their lives are ok just the way they are, some people are afraid of change and/or are not equipped with the support it may take to move into some new way of being or attitude change.

There may be an issue with trust meaning some people may not trust that they can change and/or trust others enough to ask for the help and support they may need to delve into personal growth. There are people who are resistant because they are afraid of what they will find and are not aware that there is a solution to what they may find.

Some are satisfied with life as it is and don’t see the point. Some are thinking they don’t have time and energy or are not making the time or the effort for growth. There are some who may have conditioning that says personal growth is for the weak.

For me, I have a mindset of knowing the value I have received from personal growth and that propels me to further my exploration into growth. I have been involved in personal growth since I was a senior in high school. I read several books that really created the desire to grow by filling me with stimulating incite in areas I was struggling such as periodic depression and addictive eating or as some call it emotional eating.

The books that started me on my growth path were Wayne Dyers book “Your Erroneous Zones, Sugar Blues, Fat is a feminists Issue, and Siddhartha. I have traveled many roads to create personal growth since then and will continue on my growth path. It continues to be worth it. It is my honor to assist people who want to be on a growth path but don’t want to go it alone!